Friendship and Self Respect

Greetings Beloved Ones.

Friendship is such an important construct for humans.  As you are born into a family, picked for various reasons by your Higher Self, as you grow through your life you will find people you will take to your heart and call them various terms defining your friendship.

Just as with your family members, these individuals will have ample opportunity to hurt your feelings and your heart.  They will also bring many moments of joy and happiness to you, if you allow it.  If you are blessed to have someone come into your life and your heart you must always remember that this person is a spiritual being on their own path, and thus they have their own lessons to learn, have the right to make their Free Will Choices, and whatever they choose to do has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them.

As you grow in your life you develop friends from different locations – work, hobbies, travel – and they add to different parts of you and help you grow and round out your world viewpoint.  This is good.  No one is an island and if you prevent yourself from learning about the reality you live in, that will hamper you from growing and developing in your life plan.

We angelics are always happy for you when you find that individual who you add to your tribe to love, and happier when that relationship stays positive.  Unfortunately, just as you have disagreements with your family members, so too will you disagree with your friends.  This does not mean that the friendship is over, however, what happens is entirely up to free will – yours and the others.

There is nothing wrong with enjoying and loving someone.  But when one takes in another person’s issues it is detrimental to oneself – and can throw one off of one’s healing path.  All too often, in pain and sadness, humans reach out to others to solve their problems, instead of looking inside and reaching for their higher self and their guides to help them.  Each person is responsible for their own healing and growth and when you give your power over to someone else, you will stagnate instead of grow.

Indeed, one should really focus on living in the moment and enjoying the moment while respecting and loving oneself.  Honor that which you are growing through as a step in your path just as you honor others living this challenging life known as being human.  Love yourself and love those around you, giving the respect to each other that each has the free will choice to make whatever decision one chooses – regardless of any label others may place upon that choice.

Love is so much more than the narrow definition humans give it.  One definition of Love that we would like you to embrace and enact in your life is that you have free will to make a choice or not make a choice.  Not making a choice is still a choice, but making active choices instead of passive choices will help you develop your sense of Will over time.  Once your sense of Will is developed you will be less likely to fall complacently into line with those who may not have your highest and best good in their intentions.

And that is truly what friendship is about – spending time with others who accept you and respect that your highest and best good is equally as important as theirs.  If you are spending time with someone who does not respect your highest and best good, then it may be time to meditate on the relationship and see what is holding your friendship in place.  Is there a lesson that needs to be learned and healed?  Do you stay friends because of stagnation or fear?  Even family members eventually leave the home environment and begin the process of living on their own, separate from each other.  If you have someone in your life who has expectations of what you should do for them or their life, this may be a prompt for candid self examination.

Self examination can be a difficult process for it requires honesty and the ability to look truthfully at situations.  We angelics are here for you, now and always, and love you as you are and are always surrounding you with love.  Even if you walked away from all you know, we will always be with you.  You are never alone and we want you to know that.  Just as you are reading this, we are surrounding you with love and joy.  Life is filled with difficult decisions for humans, but we want you to know that you should never stay in any relationship because you are afraid of being alone.  We are with you always, your personal posse that will never leave you, so be honest and truthful in your self examination so you can grow best from it.

We are with you always, beloved ones, and that is something you can count on.  Listen for us, feel for us, for we are always reaching out to you with Love, especially when you are in a peaceful place and can hear us better.

Remember, Love is all there IS, and You Are Loved, You Are Love, and You Love.  Say it to yourself when you are feeling scared and lonely and you will realize the Truth in that.

“I Am Loved, I Am Love, I Love.”

Find strength in the knowledge that we love you and are always with you.

Blessings to you this day of our Creator.

Accept Your Grace

Greetings Beloved Ones.

Today’s message is about you and how you treat others.  Sometimes, when you are having a bad day, or are scared, or are threatened, or just in a certain place in your life you don’t realize how you treat those in your life.

You control whether someone is in your life.  Let’s take an example of someone who you have in your life, but your relationship is uncomfortable, maybe drama-ridden.  It may be that you weigh the positives and the negatives and feel that the positives are worth someone in your life.  If that is the case, it is your responsibility to accept that person entirely as you have decided to have them in your life, warts and all.  You do not have the right to criticize that person for their choices or for their career or for their friends or for whatever reason you criticize them.  You accept them as they are, with love, knowing that they are doing the best they can do on any given day – just as you are doing the best you can on any given day.

Let’s look inside for a moment.  Look deep inside you and you will find a complex, emotional person who really has little control on the things that happen in your life.  You can only control how you react.  So if you are having a bad day and your 5 year old knocks over the glass with milk in it, do you really feel it is a loving thing to do to scream at them, spank them or put them in the corner, and then blame them for the rest of the night for an accident?  Even if it was on purpose, this is a spiritual being who is still learning to adjust to being in a human body after only 5 years here.  How many years have you been in your body?

We angelics love you – completely and without reservation.  Regardless of your behavior or your choices or your actions we will always love you and we accept you as is.  We want you to look at your definition of love and acceptance and see where you stand.  No, we don’t ask humans to love as we do, but we do ask you to stretch yourself, to grow in Light, and to seek Love instead of conflict.

Many days you ask us for help, for guidance, for assistance.  At those times, we reach out to you, to continuously send you messages of love and hope and help.  Sometimes you may hear us in some fashion and other times you do not.  REMEMBER – WE ARE ALWAYS WITH YOU.  So if you are in a place where you cannot hear or feel us, remember you are loved and accepted by us and we will always be here to support you.

Back to those who are in your life.  Only you can make a determination of whether any person needs to be present in your life.  If someone is toxic and hurtful, you have the right to make the changes to remove that person from your life.  If you are in a situation where you are being hurt or those you love are being hurt, you have the right to do what you can to change that situation.  Just remember – acting impulsively is acting out on your feelings.  Reacting is secondary to analyzing.  Humans have an amazing bandwidth of emotions second to none in the universe.  Sometimes you have a hard time understanding what you are feeling much less controlling your actions in response to those emotions.

We ask you to step back and analyze the situation before acting impulsively.  Why, you ask?  Because when you act impulsively you are not looking at the spiritual being in the body you are reacting to an emotion that body caused you to feel.

Let’s look at an example.  Remember back in time to a place where you were either in school or work and the person in charge of you – teacher or supervisor – belittled you, made fun of your work, was derogatory of your efforts.  Some people would strike out physically in anger in response.  Again, not a best action to choose.  Others will stuff all their hurt emotions inside and ignore it.  That too is not a good idea.  Never suppress emotions as that causes dis-ease and other issues to manifest on the physical level.  It may be because of circumstances that you never get to have an emotionally satisfying response to this person, but there are ways you can process the incident and move forward by using what gifts that came with you into this world.

Who knows what kind of day this person is having.  You don’t know what kind of life they have either.  Stepping back and not taking personally what anyone else says to you or about you is always the first step.  Don’t give your power away – not to strangers, not to friends, not to loved ones.  YOU are the master of your own destiny and you need to keep your own power within your energy fields.

So, look at the source of the situation and step back and say to yourself – I respect you as a spiritual being locked into a human form.  I have difficulties with this some days and I respect that you may be having difficulties with it right now.  I am me and you are you and together we are both on the same journey back to the Creator.  Then, ask your angels and guardians to work with that person’s angels and guardians and surround them with Light.  Ask for that person to be permeated with Love and ask for them to receive that which is needed for their highest and best good.  And wish them well on their path.  Don’t make statements like you hope they get hit by a car and die because that kind of energy you send with that statement will only come back to you as karma.

Yes, it can be excruciatingly difficult to send Love to someone who is cruel and ugly to you, but part of each person’s path is to grow beyond the perceived limitations of their life.  When you can truly SEE that it truly is not about you – how can it be?  They don’t know you! – then you don’t waste your energy on feeding back into that negative energy spiral the person has around them.

Know that the person’s angels and guides are trying to help them right at that second, just as yours are helping you every minute of every day.  “There but for the grace of God I go” is a powerful statement that we wish more people would incorporate into their lives.  Because truly, on any given day it is the Grace you have accepted into your life that keeps you moving forward.

Accept your Grace from God, know that you are Loved and Blessed regardless of how your day is going, and share that Love with those you encounter.  You don’t have to be perfect at it, but as you practice this it will get easier.  And think how wonderful it will be when everyone is practicing this belief and our world transforms around us.

There, but for the Grace of God, go I.

You are loved, Beloved Ones, and you are never alone.

Step Back and Take Stock

Greetings Beloved Ones.

We angelics would like you to ponder an idea.  When you are struggling with doing something and nothing seems to be going well, what do you do?  What is your pattern of behavior in situations like this?

We ask this because many people engage in the self-destructive pattern of continuing to throw themselves into the situation because they are afraid to “fail”.  They are afraid to be seen or afraid to view themselves as a “quitter” and so they continue to battle onward.  Unfortunately, this is not always what is in your highest and best good.

Challenge exists on the human plane and that you will find challenges throughout your lifetime.  When you encounter something challenging, we would like you to take a moment to step back, become calm and centered, and ask yourself, “why am I doing this?”.

This simple question, asked when you are grounded and balanced and in a neutral emotional state, can help direct your next steps.  So much negative energy is wrapped up in frustration, hurt, and anger feelings and while these certainly can damage you yourself, when you are caught up in a cycle of these negative emotions many times you can also hurt those around you – especially those you love.

There are many detrimental energies that exist on the human plane that encourage these types of emotions and events.  They fan the fire of your ire and then bask in the glow that erupts through harsh words and physical actions.

This is not the path of Love.  These are not actions chosen for you by Spirit.  Whenever any emotion other than Love is felt or expressed by you, realize that you are not acting from a place of Love and you are not acting in connection with Spirit.  Take control and step back and review the situation from a place of calm and detachment.

Your Higher Self has many challenges planned for you in your lifetime.  Your Free Will choices allow you to choose how you will act and live your life.  But we angelics are asking you to stop negative behavior patterns because this is not about overcoming a challenging.  The true challenge is to recognize when you are being manipulated by energies that don’t want you to succeed in living a life based in Love.

Love is all there is, truly.  When you turn away from Love you are adding to the difficulty in your life.  When you turn back to Love, and ask to be shown what else you could be doing, another path will be shown to you.  It may also have challenges, but when you choose the path of Love the challenges will be fewer and your Love of Self and Others will continue to grow.  Choose Love, always.

Keep this in mind, Beloved Ones.  We love you and are here with you always.